I’m not sure if I’m manic or whatever, but as I set out to write this update, I realized, wow, I’ve been doing a whole lot of stuff. That means next time you see me, I welcome butt rubs and loving kisses on the top of my head and also hugs. Below is a sampling of all the stuff I’ve been doing since my last blog update. On top of all this, you can always hire me for lectures or writing coaching. Check back here soon for a complete bibliography and curriculum vitae for my lectures.
On August 22nd (the day before my birthday!), I’m teaching a one-shot course, introducing people to the ideas and work of the late 19th-early 20th century mystic, scientist, philosopher, and artist, Rudolf Steiner. Steiner’s worldview, anthroposophy, is connected to the Western esoteric tradition, and deeply informs everything I do. When you sign up, you’ll get to hang out with me for awhile, do some exercises, learn, and then interact with me – it’s really the next best thing to being in the room. Click here for more info and to sign up!
I just completed my last online course, “How To Start A Sexual Revolution” and it was a huge success – Along with Samuel Delany, Duncan Trussell, Buck Angel, and Tristan Taromino, we discussed sex, culture, spirituality and art, and answered participant questions.
“What’s in a (Porn) Name?” on buzzfeed.com
(on my birth name, my porn name, and discrimination against porn performers)
“Because sex is so compartmentalized — it’s often considered separate from the rest of life and hidden away — porn performers, who have sex publicly, are in a unique position to consider and talk about integrating private and public aspects of life. Of course, compartmentalizing different aspects of our lives has become more and more of a problem for everyone, not just porn performers. Potential employers investigate drunken Facebook photos, and there’s a pervading anxiety of making a public and YouTube-able misstep or off-colored comment.” Read more
“You’ve Got To Make Them Feel It” on buzzfeed.com
(on what’s “real” and what’s “fantasy” in porn, what it’s like to be on the set)
“The lights are always on, above you and below you, held underneath your balls and on your face. You’re supposed to be aware of the cameras, without looking into them. People shout instructions: Slow down. Stop. Start. Speed up. Move your hand, it’s casting a shadow, and keep going, keep going, even if it’s uncomfortable. There are times when you’re bottoming while balancing on a parked motorcycle or standing between two guys on a ladder or giving a blow job while doing a handstand (really!). You fuck, you get fucked, you take a minute while the crew re-rigs the lights, and you eat a banana to keep your blood sugar leveled. Sometimes you’ll go for two hours, sometimes you’ll go for twelve. So it’s work, and it’s staged. But it’s also fun and sexual.” Read more
“Facing the Torsos” on TheStranger.com
(on phone hookup apps, the future of pornography)
“With apps, we create living pornography on the spot; they embody exhibitionism and voyeurism par excellence. They’reportable, they’re accessible when we want them to be (in your office! In the Starbucks bathroom!), they’re not one-way like much live cam porn, they’re not expensive, and everyone who signs up is agreeing to the same basic premises.” Read more
I’ve been on a few podcasts and have made some other appearances recently – perhaps most noticeably on Sex at Dawn author Christopher Ryan’s podcast, Tangetially Speaking. We talked about science, sex, evolution, revolution, and more. We went really really deep – perhaps deeper than I ever have on a podcast before.
Did you know that when I was a kid, I started and ran my own record label (sport.records, and Sell-Out records)? I also set up punk shows for years in my little PA town. One of the bands I put out music by, Speedwell, is having all their stuff re-released by Coolidge records, and you can download it at bandcamp. It’s very good late 1990s post-punk stuff, and the singer, Meredith Bragg, went on to become a bit of an emo sensation. To the left is the cover of the Speedwell single I released.
I got two fun shout-outs from New York Magazine‘s website, The Cut – Once when they asked me about the rise of “daddies” as a gay identifier, and another time when they wrote about Anthony Weiner and sexting.
I was also recently interviewed by German-language newspaper, Taz.die Tageszeuitung. It’s in German, but you can also do google translate for a more hilarious version.
I’ve had a few porn scenes come out from Titan (NSFW), and I’ve filmed a few scenes as well. Most notably, I shot for legendary director, Joe Gage (NSFW). I have two scenes and lots of dialogue in the movie. Dialogue in most porn films is sort of a throwaway. But in a Joe Gage film, much of the eroticism lies in the set up, so it’s always good. While shooting, I took tons of behind-the-scenes photos and mini-videos via the Vine app. Most of them are collected here on Queer Me Now (NSFW).
I also just finished filming my section in a documentary called Straight Guys, which is about gay for pay performers. Perish the thought that I’m gay for pay, but I have worked with a lot of straight-identified men in gay porn, and have written about it here and here. There’s a quick write up on my appearance here. Below is me and the filmmaker.
My little vine (which can be found on vine under Conner Habib or here (NSFW)) was just named “The Best of Vine Porn” by Salon.com! Huge honor. Sometimes I vine porn, sometimes I just goof off. So if you like alternating pornography with sheer silliness, there you go.
My NewNowNext.com show, Ask the Sexpert, is off for the Summer! I’ll be back in the Fall to answer your questions. The last episode on the season – about how to stay hard while you’re topping – is right here for your viewing pleasure.
I’m looking for an intern and a web designer, hopefully both can be the same person – but welcome inquiries in either one as well. Someone who’s into what I’m up to is the biggest requirement. Preferably you’d be located in San Francisco or Los Angeles. I won’t be paying initially, but am happy to provide college credit for independent studies, and to ask you what your goals are and help you along. I’m also willing to trade writing coaching. There are lots of details to go over – If you’re interested, send me a quick note via connerhabibsocial at g mail dot com.