“Tower of Power: A Poem for Donald Trump” by Martin Pousson

13 Jan

martins-armsMy friend Martin Pousson is an amazing writer. Author of, among other things, the profoundly strange and disturbing magical memoir Black Sheep Boy (Rare Bird Books, 2016).

Plus, look at Martin’s arms.

Also, Martin’s an amazing poet, and when he gives readings of fiction, memoir, or poetry, it’s always performative in the best possible way.

When I heard he’d written a, um, rather graphic poem about Donald Trump, how could I resist? I had to have him come over to and  read it so we could share it with you. It’s part of my push in 2017 to show all the irreverent ways we can resist, create, and radiate power to one another, which culminates this month in my online course, Radical Undoing: Decolonize Your Mind with Sex, Science, the Occult, and Philosophy, which you should sign up for so we can do this work together.

The poem originally appears here in the Los Angeles Review of Books.

Follow Martin on twitter, and buy his latest book, Black Sheep Boy, here.

Decolonize Your Mind with me in my NEW ONLINE COURSE, Radical Undoing! Here’s the trailer!

10 Jan

Resistance is not enough. In a seemingly hopeless culture, we need to decolonize our minds and undo our cultural mindfuck to create a new world. Here’s the trailer for my upcoming live online course + Q&A, Radical Undoing: Decolonize Your Mind with Sex, Science, the Occult, and Philosophy! Watch the trailer and/or read the info below, and sign up!

In this course, we’ll tear down our programming piece by piece by uncovering the oppressive elements in our sexualities, views of science, thoughts on spirituality, and ideas about what’s possible…

…and then we’ll reveal new and better pathways for each; transforming our inner lives; and creating new possibilities for ourselves and, by extension, the world we live in.

Join me in this one-session-only, live, online workshop + Q&A on how to rework your inner life into a more sexual, radical, spiritual, and contemplative position, so you can see, act in, and create change in the world differently.

Together, we will:

  • Look at the links between sex and power, and how having a better attitude about sex, as well as how you have sex, can affect our culture
  • Uncover the hidden history of evolutionary biology and show how our current ideas of selfish genes, natural competition, and random genetic mutation are really just capitalist economics in disguise
  • Examine how radical art, including pornography, can dislodge old, harmful thoughts that are holding us back
  • Reexamine nature and challenge both the industrial exploitation of nature and shallow environmentalism
  • Show how indigenous studies and the philosophy of radical anthropology rightly defy current modes of resistance and demand more of us
  • Find the value of the occult and magick in the context of changing the world and banishing the old institutions of power
  • Find the radical core of postmodern philosophies and critical theory, and how to make it actionable, dynamic, and alive in your mind and the world

The course will be a fun, accessible, irreverent lecture, followed by a Q&A where we can all engage. And If you can’t attend the day of, or if you want to watch the lecture again, you’ll have exclusive ticket holder access to a recording of the course for 90 days.

On a personal note: this class is going to draw on everything I’ve learned in my 39 years of being, studying science, practicing the occult, being a sex worker, and more. With so many people depressed about the inauguration of a new President, so let’s make ourselves ready for the world. Let’s change ourselves, radically undo our inner oppressive and repressive aspects, decolonize our minds, and then bring all that back to bear on our culture.

Can’t attend the day or time of the event? No problem – every ticket gets you exclusive 90-day access to a recording of the entire session!

Here we go.

Chaos Magician + Renegade Anthroposophist = Podcast

5 Jan

IMG_4011Happy to announce I’m the first guest of 2017 on one of my favorite podcasts, Rune Soup, hosted by author and occultist, Gordon White. (If you want to skip past this stuff, just scroll down to the podcast.)

I found Gordon through a series of synchronicities: Last year, I spoke to an occulty friend of mine in San Francisco after three years of not communicating (nothing bad, we just sort of dropped out of each other’s lives). “Conner, you’ve got to read this book called The Chaos Protocols! It’s a completely new take on the economic climate and how to engage with money and the world we live in now,” he said. Or something to that effect.

I trust my friend’s taste, but to be honest, I did what I often do when people recommend stuff to me – I  thought, “Sure, sure. Another magick book. I’ll get to it in 2052.”

Later that day, I turned on a podcast that I love and am often happily frustrated by, Skeptiko, hosted by Alex Tsakiris (you may remember my conversation about scientific knowledge with Alex from December 2014). The guest? None other than Gordon White. It was a great interview.

Okay, okay, I’ll look this guy up. When I checked twitter, I saw that we followed each other. Huh? I had no memory of following him, nor of him following me. He must have just tweeted something awesome and I instinctively hit the Follow button. A few months later, I’d read The Chaos Ptotocols (it’s excellent, as are his other books, Star.Ships and Pieces of Eight) appeared on Episode 24 of his podcast, Rune Soup (which is also the name of his excellent occult-meets-politics website), and was becoming fast friends with Gordon.

My second appearance is even better than the first, in my opinion. We talk about 2017, gwwhy you shouldn’t despair, what the state of the world can mean for us spiritually, why it’s important to decolonize our thoughts, the power of forgiveness, and more. It’s all part of my work this year to radiate empowerment to you, dear reader, dear viewer, dear friend. This includes my upcoming online course, Radical Undoing: Decolonize Your Mind with Sex, Science, the Occult, and Philosophy (sign up!); which I talk about on the podcast.

Let’s become the prisms through which inspiration, imagination, and creative engagement refract and illuminate.

Here’s the podcast! Enjoy!

HUGE SALE on Writing Coaching! + New Course for 2017

19 Dec

Hey hey folks, 2016 turning into 2017. No bang, no whimper, this isn’t the end, a new beginning is waiting for us. Awesome. So let’s finish the year and ring in the new one with some good news! 

I’m offering a huge sale on my Writing Coaching Services!

Buy any service:

between 12/19 – 12/31 and get 10% off!

Buy any writing packages:

between 12/19 – 12/31 and get 15% off!

Stop putting off your dream of writing, writing more, writing better, getting published, and achieving your dream. Hire me, get it started, and Get. It. Done.

NEW COURSE

insideAlso in the good news camp: I have a new online course in 2017 that you can register for now! Radical Undoing: Decolonize Your Mind with Sex, Science, the Occult, and Philosophy is scheduled for January 22nd. You can think of it as an antidote to the pain of Inauguration weekend; a way to see hope in an otherwise unhopeful moment. More on the course in upcoming blog posts, but for now, you can check it out here!

After the year turns over, check back for my best of 2016, which I always post in 2017, since you never know what amazing things are going to happen in the last few weeks of an amazing year. And yes, I do think it was an amazing year!

Big love,

CH

 

New Online Class Sunday 12/18! Good Sex, Better World: 8 Ways Your View on Sex Can Improve the World+ Q&A!

11 Dec

SexI’ve got a pop-up live online course Sunday 12/18!

My last pop up course was on writing, this one’s on sex and culture.

While my longer online lectures/courses are very in-depth, these pop up lectures are aimed at accessibility for everyone. Accessibility in content: giving you talking points and things to think about after the lecture is over. Financial accessibility: each pop up always has a donation option so people can buy a standard ticket, pay whatever they can afford, or donate even more if they like what I’m doing. Also accessibility for me as the creator of the course – I think of the material and the course is set for just a week out, rather than all the planning/promotion that goes into my other courses.

This time, it’s Good Sex, Better World: 8 Ways Your View on Sex Can Improve the World, followed by a Q&A! Sign up here and/or read the description below.

If you ever want to know how somebody feels about freedom, start talking about sex.

Talking about sex and sexuality pushes people to the limits of their moral, ethical, and political frameworks because it’s all so highly individualized. What one person enjoys sexually – an act, a type of person, a set of features – is unintelligible to another.

For instance, have you ever been attracted to someone and pointed him or her out to a friend, only to have your friend make a repulsed sound?

Him? your friend says, incredulously. The one with the belly and big ears?

Meanwhile, you can’t take your eyes off of him as he walks by, talking on his phone.

Or maybe you like a sexual act or type that you fear is “abnormal.” You like fat men in their fifties, you like almost non-existent breasts, you like anal sex, you like sex with people dressed as stuffed animals, you like being urinated on, you like wearing a leather mask shaped like a pony’s head, you like dressing like a baby, you like…

The list goes on and on. It starts with what features you’re attracted to and ends with how you live your life…and how you think others should live theirs.

At some point or another, everyone comes across a sexual act or attraction that makes them cringe. How we think about and deal with that offense will tell us how deeply our principles about freedom go.

That’s why sex – so individualized, so active and reactive – is the perfect sphere for political and cultural progress! It’s also why sex is so over-legislated and controlled by people and institutions in power.

In other words: If you want a better world, get your perspective on sex – the sex that you and others have – worked out.

In this live, one-session-only online course, Conner Habib will tell you 8 ways to improve your views of sex and how those new viewpoints extend into a better world.

Together, we’ll investigate:

  • How sex and culture intertwine in the realm of individual freedoms and political rights
  • The current sexual landscape and not find what’s “natural” or what’s “normal,” or “real,” but what would would be ideal, what would allow the most cultural space for everyone to understand what they’d like, without restricting that access for others.
  • Why not talking about sex is so damaging
  • The benefits — and problems — of consent and boundaries
  • Why immersive and connected sex isn’t “better” than a casual, anxious hookup
  • What sex workers have to teach us about sexuality and politics
  • Some messy sexual gropes of history, the unwelcome and forcible restricting grip of power, and the pleasurable moments where we seemed to get it right
  • and more!

The course is followed by a 45 minutes sex advice Q&A with Conner, where you can get in on the conversation and uncover your own sexual ideas.

You’ll leave the course with a deeper understanding of sex’s role in our cultural psyche, a whole host of sexual stuff to think about (aside from the usual sexual stuff you think about!), and strategies for a new approach to sex and politics.

And you’ll get exclusive access to a recording of the course for 30 days after the course ends!

SIGN UP HERE!

 

Update: What Do Dan Savage, Peter Rollins, the CBC, & A Flying Golden Penis Have In Common? Me!

5 Dec

Lots going on in my funny version of the world.

HONOR/AWARD

First, I won a Sexual Freedom Award! Hurray! The Sexual Freedom Awards in the UK have been running for over twenty years now, honoring people who are working for progressive sexual values and pushing on our culture’s fundamentalist sexual boundaries.

I was honored with the Best Publicist Award – “publicist” because the Best Writer categorysfa has been absorbed into this one, but it’s largely an award for writers. Past winners include Frankie Mullin, Brooke Magnanti (of Secret Diary of a Call Girl fame), and Carol Queen. Whoa!

It’s a huge honor, and the golden flying penis statue is probably the most, um, functional trophy I’ve ever received. *ahem*

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MEDIA APPEARANCES

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DAN SAVAGE

First, I’m on Dan Savage’s new Audible.com radio show, Hot Mic! Here’s the gist: Audible started doing something called Audible channels, which features podcast-style web shows that you can subscribe to. Dan asked me on to discuss sex work, porn, LGBT issues, and more. So there you have it!

Click here or on Dan’s mug to listen.

 

screen-shot-2016-12-05-at-11-34-07-amPETER ROLLINS

You may or may not know that for some of 2015 and most of 2016, I lived with my friend, the philosopher and theologian, Peter Rollins. Before I met Peter, I was a huge admirer of his work after having read his amazing book of zen-like parables, The Orthodox Heretic. In fact, I was a big blabbermouth supporter, as follower of mine on twitter who pulled up this 2013 tweet (which apparently no one cared about at the time haha) recently to remind me. Anyway, a few years later I met Peter, we were fast friends, and he was moving in to my apartment for a year. We had lots of deep (sometimes contentious!) philosophy talks while we lived together but never did any sort of public event. So on the day before he moved out, we recorded a short conversation about spirituality, faith, marginalized identities, and psychoanalysis, which you can watch below!

CBC’s OUT IN THE OPEN 

I appeared on The Canadian Broadcasting Corporation’s show, Out in The Open, hosted by the excellent Piya Chattopadhyay! Totally mehonored, because my favorite podcast, Writers & Company (hosted by the forever amazing Eleanor Wachtel) is on the CBC. But also, it’s kind of great that I was on a government-sponsored channel talking about having sex in bathrooms. The producer reached out to me after having read my essay about sex at rest areas on Salon.com a few years ago. Anyway, it’s me, discussing where sexual tensions come from, why men have sex in bathrooms, and why that’s not going away any time soon.

I say stuff like, “If there’s a place where men are going to stand next to each other with their genitals exposed, there’s going to be sex happening there at some point or another.” Well. Yeah. They erroneously label me as a “former” adult star (I’ve got a movie coming out soon!), but that aside, it’s a fun show. Click here to listen to my segment!

WHAT ELSE?

I’ve got a few things up my sleeve before the year ends! A huge Christmas/New Year sale on my writing coaching services, a one session pop-up class, my annual year-end round up, and info on my upcoming projects!